30 Aug If it’s not a “Hell Yes!” it’s a “No”
While on one of my Pinterest binges, I came across this quote: “If it’s not a Hell Yes! It’s a NO.” I felt like I had been slapped across the face with a good dose of the obvious. And it left a mark.
Like so many of us, I was feeling overwhelmed and pulled in about 80 different directions. I was a recently divorced, transitioning from being a stay-at-home-mom to starting my own business, three busy kids, two crazy dogs, team manager for my kids’ soccer team and on the PTO Board at my kids’ elementary school. I had a fairly busy social life, family life, work life and just life in general. I was getting exhausted and finding I was giving little to so many things but not a lot to the things that really mattered. And I wasn’t giving the time and attention to the most important thing, myself. I had a hard time saying no to requests, invitations and opportunities.
Often times, I would accept an invitation to do something and even though in my heart, I really didn’t want to go, I felt bad saying no. Then to find myself spending time and money doing things that didn’t nurture my soul or feel worth the investment. Sometimes, a hangover from hell to boot (just keepin’ it real people) and NOBODY enjoys that!
Coming to the realization that my time is valuable, if not to anyone else, it is to me, was HUGE! The more self-work I was doing, the more value I began to put on my time and efforts, the more I felt aligned with this statement of it being a “no” if it’s not a “hell yes”. I started to follow my gut and began to say “no” to things that didn’t bring me closer to my goals, nurture my soul or anything that was simply wasn’t a “HELL YES!”. Even if sitting on my couch with my two dogs watching Netflix and getting a good cry in was that thing, because sometimes, that’s exactly what we need. Truly, one of the BEST things I’ve implemented in my life. It has been life changing when it comes to making decisions in just about any area of my life.
As a result of my new motto, I have simplified my life and can now focus on the things and people that need my love and attention the most. And the best part? I no longer have guilt over saying no; it’s extremely empowering y’all! Establishing boundaries within myself has given me strength to move forward and dive deep into the things I love with the people I love (mainly ME!).
Feel free to use this motto in your own life and see the difference just saying “NO” can do for you!
What are some areas where you need to create boundaries for yourself? Or if you already have boundaries in place, what have the benefits or downfalls been? Go to the Mojo Madam page on Facebook group and share!